neat and enjoyable overview of the hierarchical/feedback nature of a non-authoritarian, faith-based environment with successfully raising a child
further empirical verification will have to be conducted via phenomenological comparison of the author’s children with those of her correspondent [Von]. Video evidence will suffice.
Every child is different, but I have found that gentle parenting techniques are the most effective for all children. The difference I have seen is that many children are even enough, resilient enough, and don’t experience significant trauma, so virtually any reasonable parenting method will work with them. (“My parents did X and I ended up ok.”)
But kids who are more intense, more volatile, strong-willed, have experienced trauma, will thrive with patient gentle parenting and do really poorly with other methods.
It’s really an excellent point. Really making me think. Im going to have to give this more thought.
I have found parenting to be more about my self-control than anything else. In that sense, all children and even all adults I deal with benefit from my exhibiting the same self-discipline.
Adapting a child’s education to their individual needs can’t really go “both ways”. You can (& should) tailor/refine your approach even more - being MORE adaptive, supportive, patient and understanding - but never less so.
Excellent advice for parents seeking parenting guidance. I babysit a 5-year-old a few evenings a week. I can relate. Thank you! 🤗
neat and enjoyable overview of the hierarchical/feedback nature of a non-authoritarian, faith-based environment with successfully raising a child
further empirical verification will have to be conducted via phenomenological comparison of the author’s children with those of her correspondent [Von]. Video evidence will suffice.
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https://vonwriting.substack.com/p/learning-in-silence
Exciting!
That makes sense.
Don’t you think that each child is different? Obviously corporal punishment should never be used but each child may need a different parenting style.
Every child is different, but I have found that gentle parenting techniques are the most effective for all children. The difference I have seen is that many children are even enough, resilient enough, and don’t experience significant trauma, so virtually any reasonable parenting method will work with them. (“My parents did X and I ended up ok.”)
But kids who are more intense, more volatile, strong-willed, have experienced trauma, will thrive with patient gentle parenting and do really poorly with other methods.
It’s really an excellent point. Really making me think. Im going to have to give this more thought.
I have found parenting to be more about my self-control than anything else. In that sense, all children and even all adults I deal with benefit from my exhibiting the same self-discipline.
This is such a great question.
Thinking about it more, a parenting method is to a great extent what I don’t do- so that would be the same for any child.
But Im still thinking.
Also, parenting is allowing a child to be themselves. So that would be different for every child, but the self-restraint would be the same.
But still thinking.
Adapting a child’s education to their individual needs can’t really go “both ways”. You can (& should) tailor/refine your approach even more - being MORE adaptive, supportive, patient and understanding - but never less so.